I wish I was understood by my husband on how extremely difficult motherhood can be mentally. The constant comparison, the fear of being judged on how I’m raising her, the tiredness. He helps me without me asking him, but just the fact that we’re both so genetically different means he will never understand the mental constant pressure I, as a mother, constantly go through.
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OMG THIS 
my partner means well and tries his best to understand but he just doesn’t and I wish there was a magic way I could just get him to fully understand and have empathize. This right here I feel deeply
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I wish the same thing every single day!
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I hear you 
that mental load is so real, and it’s something that’s so hard to put into words. Even when they’re supportive and helping, it doesn’t always touch that constant pressure we carry in our minds the overthinking, the comparing, the worry about doing everything “right.” It’s exhausting in a completely different way.
You’re not alone in feeling that, and it makes sense that you’d want to be truly understood, not just helped. What you’re carrying matters, and it deserves to be seen too
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Yes! I never feel exhaustion like this in my entire life
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I wish the same they just never understand. 
They just don’t understand. Maybe if they carried the baby and went through all the hormonal and body changes that we as women experience, etc. and could experience the entire birthing process from a woman’s perspective, they would somewhat understand what we go through on the regular.
I wish that my partner could, for one day, live in my shoes. He would have my constant and never ending, circling thoughts, worry about if he is doing this whole parenting thing right, get everything done that needs to get done around the house, all while healing and recuperating from childbirth and experience all the different and numerous feelings because of the constant hormonal changes, etc.
In other words, I wish he could live a day in the life of myself while pregnant, a day in the life of myself about ready to give birth and then going through that process, and a day in the life of myself after birth, healing and not knowing what to do as a new parent, while worrying about doing everything the right way, etc.
they just don’t understand until they see the baby and even then, they don’t know how we as mothers feel, and they never will, even if they try their best to.
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