# Winning and Losing at The Same Time **URL:** \ **Category:** OneWishADay\ **Created:** [April 23, 2026, 5:40am UTC](https://community.momcozy.com/t/winning-and-losing-at-the-same-time/7238 "2026-04-23T05:40:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Kimberly1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/momcozy/user_avatar/community.momcozy.com/kimberly1/32/122_2.png) [@Kimberly1](https://community.momcozy.com/u/Kimberly1)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2026, 5:40am UTC](https://community.momcozy.com/t/winning-and-losing-at-the-same-time/7238/1 "2026-04-23T05:40:45Z")
#OneWishADay I wish I didn’t have to feel guilty for wanting time for myself. Almost every day I stay up late while the baby is sleeping just so I can have that, and I’m tired the next day. In order to win something as a mom, you also have to lose something, like this for example. I win time for myself, while I lose sleep at night and feel so tired since we as moms can’t sleep in anymore. We can never just win. These are definitely late night thoughts. ![image](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/momcozy/original/2X/f/f8dd4431688f1fa86628a2aecb2e62c88680fc7b.jpeg) ---
**Author:** ![Jessica2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/momcozy/user_avatar/community.momcozy.com/jessica2/32/2282_2.png) [@Jessica2](https://community.momcozy.com/u/Jessica2)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2026, 6:22am UTC](https://community.momcozy.com/t/winning-and-losing-at-the-same-time/7238/2 "2026-04-23T06:22:38Z")
Are we the same person!? Haha no it must be universal, I stay up late so I can do exactly this! Just have me time! I feel guilty all the time too for just even wanting a long bath or a shower. But there is nothing to feel guilty about it’s just us being human. I think it gets better eventually but wow I wish I could sleep in. I need to get better about going to sleep at a decent hour 🤣 sometimes I pass out when my baby goes to sleep but not lately ---
**Author:** ![mama91](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/momcozy/user_avatar/community.momcozy.com/mama91/32/2253_2.png) [@mama91](https://community.momcozy.com/u/mama91)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2026, 3:50pm UTC](https://community.momcozy.com/t/winning-and-losing-at-the-same-time/7238/3 "2026-04-23T15:50:18Z")
It gets a little better as they get older. I get an hour during nap time and an hour or so after bedtime, and my baby is 15 months old. She still gets up at 5:30-6 every morning though. I didnt start getting me time until she was around a year old. Hopefully it will get better soon! ---
**Author:** ![Rachel5](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/momcozy/user_avatar/community.momcozy.com/rachel5/32/2404_2.png) [@Rachel5](https://community.momcozy.com/u/Rachel5)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2026, 3:56pm UTC](https://community.momcozy.com/t/winning-and-losing-at-the-same-time/7238/4 "2026-04-23T15:56:40Z")
As a mom of 3 I stay up late sometimes to have a moment to myself and then instantly regret it in the morning when it’s time to get up