I wish people would stop giving unsolicited advice on how I want to raise my daughter.
She is going through the separation anxiety phase and she only wants Mom all the time. My mom told me recently that I just need someone to take her for a couple hours to “force her to learn she doesn’t always need her mom.” I’m like SHES 4 MONTHS, she doesn’t “need to learn” that she doesn’t need me. She CAN have me when she wants.
You are so right about that! All that would do is stress your baby out, and that’s the last thing we want them to have to go through. Like my husband suggested the other day to let my daughter cry herself to sleep instead of nursing and rocking her to sleep. Uhhhh no! That would just teach her that no one is coming when she cries. How horrible! Even if that method works, it stresses out the baby.
I actually really can’t stand the unsolicited advice!!! I had the same thing happen to me. I was told to not always go to my son when he was crying so he could “learn” he was two months old !!! Um noooooo my son cry’s he gets picked up end of story
The unsolicited advice is always the worst and I feel like it’s always from older people who have adult children. I want to look at them and say how long ago did you have a baby? 
I think they are seriously misremembering. They just think they have all the answers
Amen to that!
A baby is reliant on their caregiver, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with your baby loving you and being attached to you. In fact it’s the most right thing in the world. I know it’s hard but try to tune out that negativity, and just love your little one.
I refuse to just let her cry, if I’m available she’s immediately getting address, there might be a time where she cries for a few minutes but she is crying because she has a need, even if that need is me
What they should be learning at this age is trust, trust their caregiver is going to attend to their needs!! not learn that their caregiver won’t come to them when they need them
Well I looked at my mother and thought “no wonder I didn’t develop a secure attachment if you think that a 4m old needs to learn they don’t need their mom” and now her and I have a crap relationship and I don’t feel like I ever need her 
consequences of your parenting actions
I would rather my baby feel like I’m the only one who can calm her and make her feel safe, than feel like she can’t trust anyone including me to meet her needs. Even if that means I constantly hold her.
Sometimes I think it is not that she needs me, but that I rely on my little one. 
Exactly! Sometimes I will let her fuss in her crib at night for a minute to see if she self settles. But that’s about it. The rest of the time, I get to her as quickly as possible. My husband said she needs to “toughen up” and to stop babying her after I accidentally smacked her finger with the tray of her high chair. I tended to her immediately. Like uhhhh no, she’s too younger to learn to toughen up like that. I am building trust and secure attachment, and she will know that I am always there for her no matter what. Even if she feels like she’s being weak when she’s older, she will be comfortable coming to me with problems.
