i try to give myself at least a small moment during the week or whenever i can no matter how simple it is prioritizing myself and understanding that i also need my own space
for the past few years it has just been my husband and me raising our children completely on our own and without any support system honestly since i got pregnant with my first child i used to do absolutely nothing for myself i didn’t have a hobby nor was that something i did before becoming a mom now motherhood came to help me discover that i can also be useful and grow as a person
for me this doesn’t require big complications i have discovered that small actions can change everything even the way you see things it is not about demanding too much of myself but about listening to what i really need in the moment
sometimes it is joining workshops at the rehabilitation center even though i am just learning to make crafts and seasonal decorations they are not a big deal but i am learning it helps me feel that i am doing something truly important for myself
other times when my husband has time off we go for a walk outdoors and i take my journal with me there i write about myself my personal tasks and the dreams i want to fulfill like my goal of starting my own business having that space connects me with my goals as a woman and when i am home and my kids are already asleep i take a breath with my other journal to write about my motherhood venting through writing makes me feel really good
and something super important has been breaking away from the loneliness of always being in the motherhood bubble throughout the time we have been going to the rehabilitation center we have met very kind people now i have a great friend who is also a mom we sit down to drink coffee talk and share what we go through it feels really good to talk with someone who is going through the exact same thing as you and it helps us so much that in those moments we also focus on our personal lives and talk more about ourselves as women than just about parenting
balancing motherhood with my personal life is not always easy but it is not impossible taking care of myself and recharging my energy is what allows me to be a better mom for my kids but above all a better person for myself
