Hey there! I’m Tressina, 35 and on my second pregnancy with my second girl
I’m going on 38 weeks tomorrow and I’m ready to have this baby! She’s been in position for a while and I’m effaced. I’ll be getting checked for dilation at my next appointment on Tuesday and I’m hoping for good news. Although I’m supposed to be due 11/08, I don’t think this girl will wait that long based on how quickly things have progressed. They want to induce me on 11/03, even though I told them I’d like to kindly decline since it’s not medically necessary.
My fiancé and I have decided to get a birth plan together and share with the doctors so they are aware and don’t give me a hard time. This isn’t my first rodeo and I did learn some things from my first pregnancy that I wish I’d known before giving birth, one of them being able to say “No, thank you!”
I’m feeling optimistic with this second pregnancy and am open to any advice about things to research for a smoother delivery and labor this time around
I admire you for taking charge mama!! welcome to the community and congratulations. You are gorgeous! My biggest advice is just do whatever your body is telling you to do. Don’t let anyone force you in to any positions that feel wrong to you! Best of luck
Hi Tressina! Wishing you a smooth delivery as you get ready to meet your second little girl! I love that you and your fiancé are putting your preferences into words and making space for questions with your care team. Feeling heard and supported matters so much. I hope Tuesday’s appointment brings clarity and that you feel confident about the plan you make together. You’re so close to those newborn snuggles!
Thank you so much!!! I had a wonderful midwife my first pregnancy and she was a huge advocate for going with the natural rhythm of my body and since then, I felt more confident in my ability to advocate for myself. I used a squat bar instead of laying down, she didn’t offer to slice me, she offered a jelly to help me stretch which I was grateful for and she was very kind and patient with me. I had my first delivery done in 3 pushes, 23 minutes long with a 5 hour labor. A great experience with her but not the doctor who stretched my cervix to “speed things up” because she was going on a cruise and didn’t know who’d be on-call.
Oh how wonderful! I’m sooo happy you felt advocated for and supported for the 1st! So many moms don’t get that and it breaks my heart With a 5 hour labor you may definitely go faster this time! My first was 4 hour labor and my 2nd was 2 1/2 hours. I also had a midwife I loved and felt safe/supported for both births. It really makes a huge difference. But I’m so sorry about the other doctor…. Our labors deserve to be peaceful and to allow our bodies to follow natural rhythms. It is not a process that should be rushed like that
Agreed! The first pregnancy was very stressful and traumatic but this one has been completely different and I’m feeling much more optimistic about labor and delivery this time around.
I’ve also heard that the second birth usually goes faster since your body has experience so I’m praying this goes quickly
Hey nice to meet you! I am Odalis and welcome to our community
I am glad you are creating a birth plan so the medical staff know your wishes. I had to be induced at 40 weeks and one day. It was not fun, but it was worth it. I am wishing you a safe delivery
Congrats momma!! Id recommend trying out a birthing ball! I used that with my delivery and boy did it help me endure those contractions! I planned for the epidural eventually and only ended up needing it when I was at a 5-6 cm which made me feel proud haha! Maybe it will help you as well get baby moving!!
Welcome to the community love . Why is being induced such a thing, that’s all I see now a days, goodness. Especially if not medically necessary, I myself was induced and ended in a C-section although I had gestational diabetes but it wasn’t severe (long story). Listen to your body and do what’s best for you and baby.
welcome to the community and congratulations. You are gorgeous! My biggest advice is just do whatever your body is telling you to do. Don’t let anyone force you in to any positions that feel wrong to you! Best of luck
With a 5 hour labor you may definitely go faster this time! My first was 4 hour labor and my 2nd was 2 1/2 hours. I also had a midwife I loved and felt safe/supported for both births. It really makes a huge difference. But I’m so sorry about the other doctor…. Our labors deserve to be peaceful and to allow our bodies to follow natural rhythms. It is not a process that should be rushed like that 
